30 you say? Ok... Step one; get your age verified (look it up, it's a process you must follow).
Step two, sometimes mixed with step one; go meet people.
Step three; read before posting, or use the Search option. Read what? Maybe the TEAMS section, or the Information section, or the Games section would be handy.
Then step away from the computer and go out there.
No joke, it's the best thing you could do.