You're a big fan of airsoft, it's just that it's so unrealistic that it sucks?
There are different levels of airsoft, it sounds like you want to play with a full MilSim club with GBBR (realcap 30 rounds, gas blowback for recoil). You can only get so much range out of 6mm plastic BB though. I think you'll have to join the Forces if you want to get more realistic.
Maybe you should go out and play an actual game with a rental/loaner gun and see what's really important to you in this sport.