It might feel/sound like a ballsy thing to say, both in the heat of the moment or behind the anonymity of the Internet, [paraphrase] "if he doesn't take the hit then shoot him in the neck/face"....but, personally, I think that is a very poor thing to do.
Above the shoulder shots do happen, but they should be avoided whenever possible...and certainly not taken on purpose out of spite/anger. This game is about honour and sportsmanship. Once it falls anywhere below that bar...it's deteriorates so quickly into plain fucktardedness.
Speak with the host...privately or at the briefing. It's their responsibility to set the expectations, resolve issues and enforce the consequences.
It might be falling on deaf ears...but shots above the shoulder in spite or anger is not cool.