It is a man's job not to read instructions or ask for instructions. That's what you do when you're a boy.
It's every other man's job to ride anyone like a rented mule if they present themselves as a man but have to ask.
For the OP, you are still definitely a mule; you will not be a rider for some time yet.
How will you know when you've reached that next stage in evolution? You'll see that folks do ride you you can laugh it off without retreating into your shell.
Airsoft, where nothing is hurt but feelings.